Does Love Come into Coaching?

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Does Love Come into Coaching?

Rick Hanson asks in a recent newsletter “ How do you love – Freely?”

The power of coaching

The power of coaching

My own curiosity and moments of self reflection have opened many doors of enquiry through the years of coaching others.  I am  wondering how we as coaches bring love freely into our coaching and indeed how do we hold love in our own personal lives?  We are all very aware of working with empathy, compassion, kindness in the coaching relationship but how do we model love in the world of business?

Love is overly talked about in some circles, overly commercialised in others and almost completely avoided in the largest organisations of the world.
Let’s take it right back to basics and let our attention rest on our own self.
Love, the most powerful of all our emotions has for centuries created space for poetry, filled many music moguls pockets, brought deep passions to plays, operas and much that we relate to, deep inside ourselves. It raises questions, causes much pain and yet we all seek to be loved but do we always offer love when indeed it might bring healing, relief or freedom for others?
In our daily lives and coaching sessions do we openly communicate loving kindness?
How freely do we show, model or name LOVE?

How do you love?

When love flows freely we touch into so many other human feelings and actions; compassion, empathy, kindness, liking, affection, cooperation, and altruism are all in our nature, woven into the fabric of human DNA, the most social – and most loving – species on the planet. Love is a natural uprising of energy from deep inside us all. It doesn’t need to be forced or camouflaged, it needs to be released. If authentic love in any of its forms is bottled up, it hurts. For example, one of the greatest pains is that of a broken heart.

Has any aspect of your own love stopped flowing freely?
We know that besides feeling wonderful to be in love, opening to love heals psychological wounds, builds resilience, and supports personal growth. Neuroscience is rapidly informing us that, love calms down the stress response and reduces activation in the neural circuits of physical and emotional pain. It nourishes by increasing “oxytocin” which indeed facilitates milder behaviours and helps keep you out of conflicts with others. Coaches have much to offer in cultivating a loving heart, as we dance around the edges of spiritual practice and meaning and purpose in the work that we do.

 

Part Two of this blog  will be based on the contribution of coaches. So consider these questions and do pass comment please.

  • How do we contribute to bringing back human- ness into the workplace?
  • If we are suffering due to divorce, a broken relationship or the bitterness of a broken heart, can we hold a clean, healthy space for our clients?
1 reply
  1. P Fleming
    P Fleming says:

    This is an interesting thought and I can see that there will be many perspectives. Love, explicit or implicit is my first question?

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